Of all the things that people have asked us for, by far the one that has come up most is – I want a 3P Elevator Speech!
People who have seen the power of the Principles in their own lives and others naturally want to share it and they want to know how to go about doing so.
It is enticing to think there is a formula, certain words, one metaphor etc that make this understanding understandable to the people we most want to share it with!
So what’s wrong with that? Well, As Syd says:
“Techniques are to therapists as rituals are to the church – they lead you away from the truth that you seek.” – Syd Banks, The Missing Link
I think the same could be said about “formulas for sharing the Principles”
So if that is true then why would we as an organization even hold a workshop on 3P elevator speeches?
Well there are a few things our staff and advisors have learned along the way that we think add to the discussion and point in the right direction:
- the power is in the feeling, not the words.
- words can both clarify and get in the way of expressing this understanding
- the “come from” is important
- the more we share, the better we get at sharing
- the more settled our own thinking is, the more the truth seems to come through us
- we can only share from what we see
- sometimes getting people to settle down includes giving them what they think they want
- sometimes playing in the form can make us remember that it is all made up and take things a little more lightly
- brainstorming and creative thinking exercises can get us out of our normal thinking patterns and open up more possibility
- people have fresh thinking in relaxed environments when they are having fun
So with those things in mind we decided to give this elevator pitch thing a whirl and see what we all discover in the process!
On July 29th we are holding a two hour workshop facilitated by Oscar Wolters Duran to play with this idea.
And we do mean PLAY.
- we will share our favorite metaphors that have helped us see something new and we will make up our own – after all the truth is all around us!
- we will share personal stories of things we have seen for ourselves to be true
- we will play with language and audience
- we will play with the place we are coming from and see the difference it makes
- we will play with outrageousness and how to back up bold claims
- and we will laugh at our shared humanity, and the times that things didn’t work so well
We hope at the end of the two hours, participants are relaxed and having fun, are open to new ideas about how to share this understanding and see something new for themselves.
If that sounds like something you’d enjoy – please consider joining us.
To keep it intimate and allow for everyone to participate we are limiting the workshop to 12 people and spots will be filled on a first come first serve basis
We are very much looking forward to what surfaces and no worries if you are not among the 12, we will share how it goes!
** UPDATE – A second workshop date has been added on August 19th as the July 29th workshop sold out within the first hour! Thank you to all of you who support our programs!
Our launch party is over. 12 hours straight of sharing insights, basking in the quiet love and common humanity of us, giving away prizes, laughing, dancing and even wearing silly hats and noses!
Was it worth it?!
To me – you bet! I learned a lot.
- I learned that a crazy idea that comes from my enthusiasm to share what Center for Sustainable Change is up to in the world, can bring people together in a profound way. Profound? Yep, I said profound. Love is profound and that was the theme that we all kept coming back to all day long.
- I learned that people have patience for things that go wrong when in that place of love, they are kind and forgiving. When the mood did drop at all, people held the space until it rose again.12 hours is a long time and I was wonderfully tired at the end of the day but I learned that love can outlast us. I went to bed with a full heart and I hope you did too.
- I learned that there are many people still in this community that I have not had the pleasure of meeting and I want to meet all of you!
- I learned that when you are inspired – the team behind you feels inspired. No grumbles from the gallery on this 12 hour ride – just lots of “wheee!” Even when Buffer didn’t post all the things we scheduled the entire day before and they had to be manually posted across all social media channels. It was met with laughter and rolled up sleeves.
To you – was it worth it?
If you attended, I can’t imagine that you could not feel the love “in the room”, so to speak. Many of you learned about our new programs for the first time, and saw how many people just like you have been touched by the Principles.
The love and support were clearly there on the call, and it is my hope that this also translates to monetary support for those that can do so.
As a nonprofit, it is my sincerest hope that we can continue to share the Principles with anyone who is interested, regardless of circumstances, and that we can continue to build this website into an online community of love. My hope is that the stories we share of what people can see when their thinking settles down will inspire the world and be shared widely, that people will take this inspiration and bring it into their lives, work and communities and this will lead to global change. Is that a big hope? You bet! Maybe it sounds crazy, but a month ago the idea of a 12 hour Zoom launch party seemed crazy, too!
If you want to help keep us going in this direction, please consider making a donation.
If you want to keep participating – join us on our In the Moment calls on Thursdays.
If you want to connect with others, join our new Changemaker directory and start conversations on the groups.
If you want to get involved but are not sure how, send us a note – let us know you are interested in volunteering, sharing, helping, recording a video, or joining in.
If you wish you had been more of a part – it is not too late – jump in!
- Thank you to those who attended – it made the party better for your presence.
- Thank you to those who registered – it let us know you were on board.
- Thank you to those who donated prizes – all of them are listed on this page – feel free to connect with them and thank them as well. Their gifts encouraged people to come and share their gifts.
- Thank you to all of those who shared and participated on social media – we have a greater reach because of you.
- Thank you to the tech team behind the scenes that worked their magic nonstop throughout the day.
- Thank you to those of you that made donations. In the greater ways love fuels us, but in the form, your donations make it all possible.
Thank you Thank you Thank you!!
It was most definitely worth it!
Center for Sustainable Change
PS. How do you like the new website?!
Center for Sustainable Change is proud to announce Helen Neal-Ali joining the team as our new Social Proof Project Coordinator! She will be collecting social evidence and real life stories of where the Three Principles are being shared, and the experiential results. More info on this exciting project in the coming weeks!
The announcement was made during our 12-hour Virtual Launch Party on Sunday May 20th, where she also recorded a What I Know for Sure video for us. Watch for that clip soon!
From Helen’s Changemaker Profile:
I was introduced to the 3 Principles 22 years ago by Elsie Spittle. My life was changed the very first day of the 4 day workshop. I was so moved when she said our thoughts create our reality and that I did not have to take every thought so serious. I had so many negative thoughts going on at that time it was a relief to know that they were just thoughts and I could take them or leave them. It was life changing. 6 months later I started Life Changing Consulting & Associates to help others in my community learn these 3 Principles. Over the years I have done work in low income communities, jails, businesses, drug rehabilitation, HIV clients, domestic violence, schools, and one on one sessions with clients. My goal in life is to help as many people as I can find their wisdom within by sharing the 3 Principles with them.
Focus Areas: Addiction, Caregivers, Community, Domestic Violence, Education, Mental Health, Parenting, Relationships, Stress, Training, Violence, Youth
So many of you have heard it is ALL ABOUT THE FEELING – well let me tell you we are on top of that! As a recent webinar attendee said ” The feeling was off the charts, the depth of love in this community never ceases to amaze me”. May is all about that LOVE!
Each month the CSC Board of Directors get together, and each board meeting is started with sharing from each person present and then a “grounding” which ranges from a personal story, a passage from The Missing Link, a Dr Seuss rhyme, a song lyric or a poem. Often times you hear about all that people are appreciating in their lives. Sometimes someone has a challenging month and they share that- quite frequently we hear – well I wasn’t feeling all that great but I knew when I saw all of you I would forget about that. The reason for that is there is love in every meeting. The board genuinely cares for each other. It is palpable. I can’t imagine this is typical of Board meetings in general but I must say it is typical for this one!
One of our Board members, Gretchen Blais has been a shining example of the love and blessings that seem to flow into our lives after we begin to understand how life works. Gretchen has spent many months of board meetings relating to us how she was doing handling the role of caretaker for the love of her life, George Chan as he finished the remaining days of his life. Each month she would come on and express how grateful she was that she had more days to love him. She found joy in the care-taking tasks whether it was folding laundry or making meals. She inspired us all to look at the things we do in our everyday lives differently. Little things done with great love started seeping into our lives. Gretchen’s love, George Chen transitioned April 2nd. You can read what she wrote about it in her blog post.
Gretchen loved George and she shared that love with us and now we share it with you. Life with the Three Principles still includes sickness and death, but it allows us to see the beauty in those things as well.
On Tuesdays, Our Collaborative Associate Patty Tanji has been hosting calls for community members in recovery. As we have sat in, we have seen that human beings who love and accept each other can support each other through anything.
On Thursdays, Judy Sedgeman has been hosting In the Moment calls. Many times the calls have dropped into a beautiful feeling that people take with them the rest of the day. We joke about the “makeover” that some of us feel we’ve had after these calls. If you haven’t had the pleasure of taking part yet – please join us!
On May 15th, Amir Karkouti hosting a webinar entitled People Before Principles, The feeling on this call was absolutely gorgeous! People were shedding tears at the beauty in it! The quote I used at the beginning of this letter is describing this call. If you’d like to listen – the recording is now available here.
On May 20th we will be sharing more love with you in the form of a celebration. The last few months I have shared that we were launching our new website and would be sharing peoples videos about What They Know for Sure. This coming Sunday we will be releasing more of these videos and recording some live on a 12 hour Zoom celebration. We have been so touched by the generosity of the community in joining in our celebration – we have had over a dozen coaches offer coaching sessions as give-aways, many people recording videos ahead of time and people signing up to share their insights with us live at the party! We will spend that day as a community, much like our board does, in a feeling of appreciation for what we have seen, what others have seen and how it impacts our lives and the world around us. Though we are live from 8am – 8 pm ET on Zoom – feel free to pop in and out throughout the day to listen to insights, see old photos, share love, win prizes and celebrate the Principles that Syd shared with us all. Remember to RSVP to get the zoom link.
I look forward to seeing you!
Last month I mentioned that I had been looking at community as a verb and what that would look like. This month the team and I are taking that a step further. Over the coming month you will see some exciting new developments in making the word community a verb and how that ties into our vision and mission:
We want to help you to…
Establish Connections… We want to make it easy for the whole 3P community to connect with each other. In April, stay tuned for a new website with some unique new features that will allow us to do that. You will be able to be a part of the 3 Principles community, not as a “practitioner” but as a fellow human being who has seen something about the way we all function. You will be able to learn about other fellow beings who have seen something looking in this direction as well. You will be able to CONNECT with each other and LEARN from each other and with each other as you go about your lives.
Find Support… The new website will include the launch of new virtual GROUPS that allow us to SUPPORT each other. Having difficulty expressing what has touched you about the Principles? Practice with someone who is working on the same thing in one of our community groups. Looking for something more personal? Find a local LIVE GROUP near you and take part, or start a new one with people you find are in your area. Are you in RECOVERY and looking for a way to continue living and loving in your own communities with the SUPPORT of others who understand recovery and how life works from the inside out? Our Collaborative Associate Patty Tanji will be starting a weekly online Zoom support group to address those needs in April.
Network… Have you always wanted to share this understanding in a certain community, like in prisons or with your local police department? MEET others who have been there and done that. LEARN what went right and what could have been done better when they did it. Get to know those with REAL LIFE EXPERIENCE without spending money or traveling to conferences, and CONNECT on your time.
Learn… New programs and projects will be coming soon, including…
- Master Coach Molly Gordon will be leading a focus group to find out where you are having trouble sharing the Principles among friends, family, and others in your community to further direct our programming.
- Three Principles Facilitator Amir Karkouti will be doing a webinar on People before Principles and how to get out of the way and let the feeling do the work.
Have Fun… Our monthly calls are changing, too. We want you to LIGHTEN UP and enjoy life and the Principles, so starting in April, Judy Sedgeman will be hosting IN THE MOMENT calls. We are looking for sponsors to support this program so that people can attend for free and enjoy an hour with a long-time practitioner talking about life and the things that happen “in the form” without losing sight of the bigger formlessness that this understanding points to.
Our official launch party will be a 12-hour affair full of fun and laughter – stay tuned to see what we have up our sleeve!
Be Inspired… We are launching two new video series to share people’s stories, to inspire people to look in a new direction, and to share what they see. It is our hope that hearing and sharing these stories will allow you to see how much you have to share with the world from right where you are.
- Bloom Where You are Planted will showcase people who have shared the gift of the Principles with others, not from the front of the room but from standing beside them while going about their everyday lives as a parent, a friend, a co worker. (If you have a story to share and want to schedule a time to record it with us – email us here.)
- What I Know for Sure will take us back to what we each have seen as a result of learning about the Principles. Sometimes these insights might seem so small – “I make better decisions when I am settled down” – but imagine the ramifications if everyone saw what you have seen! This is an opportunity to share things in your own words of how the Principles have brought insights that changed YOUR WORLD and have the potential to change THE WORLD.
As a newsletter subscriber you will get a “SNEAK PEEK” before the official launch, and you will be able to become early adopters and be the first to join the community. Please watch your email and add CSC@centerforsustainablechange.org to your approved sender list to make sure our emails go directly to your inbox!
I look forward to connecting, networking with you, supporting you, learning with you, having fun with you and being inspired by you.
Center for Sustainable Change wishes to introduce our new CEO, Terri Alamo, who begins her position effective November 1. Terri replaces our retiring CEO, Dave Nichols, who has served as CSC’s CEO with passion, warmth, and devotion for the past 5½ years.
CSC’s Board awarded Dave and his wife and Administrative Assistant, Chini, the Roger Clark Mills Award for their exceptional efforts in bringing the Principles to community settings and continuing the legacy of CSC co-founder, Dr. Roger Mills.
Terri Alamo is deeply rooted in the Principles and brings business, organizational, and technical experience, energy, and a passion for CSC’s work. Terri and her husband Joe own TLC for Coaches, and their firm has worked with many people in the Three Principles community including Michael Neill, 3PGC, Divine Play, Linda Pritcher, Cathy Fandrich, and Annika Hurwitt.
We welcome Terri with excitement and open arms, and we wish the best for Dave, who will continue serving as a Goodwill Ambassador for CSC.
Dave and Chini Nichols received the Roger Clark Mills Award from CSC co-founder Ami Chen Mills-Naim and CSC Board Chair Sandy Johnson at The Awesome Event in Charlottesville, VA. We wish Dave & Chini well in their “refirement.”